She has learned that she has to be a good girl, sit in school like everyone else, without standing out too much. Her environment has instilled in her that she must go to university, start a family and work on what she has studied until she retires. And then yes. Then she can relax and finally live a “deserved” happiness.
But Julia wants to be happy NOW. Now that she is the mother of two beautiful children, Noa and Leo.
She wants to put her talents at the service of others and enjoy every minute of her life with them.
And she wants her children to feel loved for what they are, not for what they do every day. After all, Julia’s love for her little ones is there. It does not disappear, it does not diminish, it does not become more or less according to the merits of the week.
She wants her children to have hope, a happy childhood that generates a happy and fearless adulthood.
Being happy now is not what she has heard in her surroundings.
“Be happy why? With the world as it is? Is that what you are going to instill in your children? What is an easy and simple life? That they have to trust in their instinct, in their rhythm, in their self-esteem?
Julia knows that to get all this, to turn around the story that she has been told since she was little and that she has not believed for a long time, she needs to “reset”.
Reset habits, beliefs and mantras learned. Stop living in automatic mode and be present. Live NOW consciously and fully.
It is not a change that can be made overnight, but she knows it is worth it. And for that, Julia has allies.
– Mom, can we play the thank you game? – Leo says after school.
– Yes, yes, mom! Let’s play! – Adds Noa.
– Ok, let’s play … Leo, why are you thankful today? What things do you appreciate that happened to you today? And you, Noa?
“Mom, I scored a great goal at playtime.” “Mom, today there was potato omelette in the dining room and I repeated twice.” “Mom, you came to collect us and I thank you because that makes me so happy …” thank you, thank you, thank you, mom!
Julia smiles going back home with her children. Love invades her. She feels that the little ritual of being “thankful for something beautiful that happened today” that she shares with her children is a seed of happiness planted.
They will have all the possibilities of the world. And she will unlearn to have them too.
“In the happiest of our childhood memories, our parents were happy too.” (Robert Brault).